Anger (called Krodh, क्रोध) is one of the five vices listed in Sikh scriptures, the others being Greed, Attachment, False pride , Lust and is most dangerous of all the vices. Anger is more destructive than fire. Gurbani has defined it;”ਬਸਾਇ ਕ੍ਰੋਧ ਸਰੀਰ ਚੰਡਾਰਾ ||” (Page 759, Shri Guru Granth Sahib (SGGS)
“The Anger when dwelling in our body is the biggest destroyer and is like a demon.”
Anger arises out of frustration as also the feeling of perceived grievance. It is also the result of unfulfilled desires or people not reacting the way we expect; a feeling of “I am not getting what I want”. It is also a result of Ego-match between two individuals engaged in communications or altercations. Anger could be instant or building up over a long time. An angry man sees no logic or reason, does not understand long-term implications of his actions committed in a fit of rage. We often hear of.
A. Road rage altercations leading to violent actions such as murders.
B. Domestic quarrels and violences causing family members to kill each other in fit of anger.
C. Killing of teachers by students after being punished by the former.
Anger brings pain, grief and subsequent lamentation once one cools down, but then the damage is done and actions done during fit of high temper cannot be retrieved. Anger causes mental and physical damage to the body leading to the disastrous results.
Controlling one’s Anger.
Sikh scriptures advise that in order to combat Anger one must conquer one’s ego. Never indulge in an Ego match. When others do not pay heed to your advice, just ignore them. Saying sorry would diffuse most of the situations.
Avoid confronting angry persons. The following verse in SGGS illuminates:
“ਉਨਾ ਪਾਸ ਦੁਆਸ ਨਾ ਭਿੱਟੀਏ ਜਿਨ ਅੰਤਰ ਕ੍ਰੋਧ ਚੰਡਾਲ ||” (Page 40, SGGS).
“Do not meet up or approach persons whose mind is filled with Anger.”
Count up to 10 before reacting to someone’s curt remarks. Avoid verbal altercations and pause before choosing to reply to the outbursts of an angry person.
When feeling frustrated or angry, drink a glass of cold water and do breathing exercises. Soon you would feel normal.
Finally to gain internal peace do meditation. Meditation makes you mature, peaceful and considerate. Gurbani states:
“ਹਰ ਕਾ ਨਾਮ ਮਨ ਵਸੇ ਹਉਮੈ ਕ੍ਰੋਧ ਨਿਵਾਰ ||” (Page 33, SGGS)
” Meditate and always keep Lord’s name in your mind, Egotism and Anger are forever eliminated.”