Many of us are disturbed in life from external and internal issues. There are inter and intra-personal conflicts, ego matches, real or perceived injustices, adjustment issues and so on which lead to frustration and disturbance. Some people give vent to their feelings and let their frustrations escape, where as others keep it within themselves which has disastrous effect as they suddenly explode. Some take recourse to compensatory behavior by channelizing their frustration into positive manifestations like adopting a good hobbies or physical activities; others go into their shell, brood and burn and overtime get into depression.
There are various constructive activities which can help people to recover from disturbances and depression. As already pointed out these are various compensatory aids like good hobbies, confiding in friends, spiritual activities, detachment and mind control. I remember a story where an office employee was perpetually ill-treated by his boss; he would come home from office very dejected and his frustration would translate into his beating up his kids, wife and even dog. One day this person on return from his office was extremely happy and jovial. His wife was very surprised and asked him whether his boss’s behavior had changed. The man replied, “ No, but I have found a way to get even.” On further inquiry, he told his wife that he is keeping a photograph of his boss in his car and on reaching the parking lot after leaving the office, he spends five minutes in beating it with his shoe and also hurling choicest abuses. This calms him down and he becomes jovial and happy.
Some people get frustrated because of lack of any activity and feeling of loneliness. There are some elderly guys who are retired and do not have much activity; some of them are perhaps neglected by their children (they may be equally at fault for having created a distance and lack of communications between themselves and their off-springs). Thus lack of activity coupled with sense of isolation makes them very bitter. Some persons feel bitter because of the attitude of their better half/bitter half , who may be busy with their own devices. Others feel insulted by the attitude of their in-laws/ out-laws. Feeling of neglect, ridicule, isolation, inactivity, inferiority complex and self pity adds to one being frustrated. Such guys would do well to change their attitude and create activities which help them remain busy. In today’s environment one has to learn to adjust with others at the same time love oneself to keep him/her occupied with meaningful activities. Stay connected digitally, express yourself through writing, take pride in yourself and if possible keep engaged in philanthropic activities. Spiritual engagement and discovery of self is also very essential. If one sheds one’s ego and attachment and tries to search the consciousness within self, there shall never be need to feel disturbed or depressed.
As per Sikh scriptures, one needs to connect with Self to discover the Lord. Such a step would help you to explore yourself and connect with the Divine light. One needs to understand the purpose of life which is a celebration and not a burden. I am reminded of a verse of Sri Guru Ram Das Ji the fourth Sikh Guru, who advised all to shed ego, attachments, connect with Divine and achieve inner peace and joy forever. ( Sri Guru Granth Sahib- SGGS, ang 527)
ਸੇਵਕ ਜਨ ਬਨੇ ਠਾਕੁਰ ਲਿਵ ਲਾਗੇ ॥
Those who become the humble servants of the Lord and Master, lovingly focus their minds on Him.
ਜੋ ਤੁਮਰਾ ਜਸੁ ਕਹਤੇ ਗੁਰਮਤਿ ਤਿਨ ਮੁਖ ਭਾਗ ਸਭਾਗੇ ॥
Those who chant Your Praises, through the Guru’s Teachings, have great good fortune recorded upon their foreheads.
ਟੂਟੇ ਮਾਇਆ ਕੇ ਬੰਧਨ ਫਾਹੇ ਹਰਿ ਰਾਮ ਨਾਮ ਲਿਵ ਲਾਗੇ ॥
The bonds and shackles of Maya are shattered, by lovingly focusing their minds on the Name of the Lord.
ਹਮਰਾ ਮਨੁ ਮੋਹਿਓ ਗੁਰ ਮੋਹਨਿ ਹਮ ਬਿਸਮ ਭਈ ਮੁਖਿ ਲਾਗੇ ॥
My mind is enticed by the Guru, the Enticer; beholding Him, I am wonder-struck.
ਸਗਲੀ ਰੈਣਿ ਸੋਈ ਅੰਧਿਆਰੀ ਗੁਰ ਕਿੰਚਤ ਕਿਰਪਾ ਜਾਗੇ ॥
I slept through the entire dark night of my life, but through the tiniest bit of the Guru’s Grace, I have been awakened.
ਜਨ ਨਾਨਕ ਕੇ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਸੁੰਦਰ ਸੁਆਮੀ ਮੋਹਿ ਤੁਮ ਸਰਿ ਅਵਰੁ ਨ ਲਾਗੇ ॥
O Beautiful Lord God, Master of servant Nanak, there is none comparable to You.